Stillbirth Support
Stillbirth Support From Someone Who Has Lived It
My first baby, my son Arlo, was stillborn. When I sit with parents whose babies have died, I'm not imagining what it feels like — I know. Online counselling across Australia for the grief, the trauma, and everything nobody prepares you for.
A Grief the World Struggles to Hold
Six babies are stillborn every day in Australia. Behind each one is a family living the unthinkable: you gave birth to your baby, you held them, you named them — and you left the hospital with empty arms. The world often doesn't know what to do with this grief. People avoid saying your baby's name. They ask how you are and hope you'll say “fine.”
Here, your baby is spoken about by name. Your grief — however messy, angry, numb or contradictory — has room. And the trauma that so often comes with stillbirth is treated with the care it needs.
Grief and trauma tangled together
Replaying the birth, the scans, the moment you knew
Anger — at your body, the hospital, the universe
Loving and missing a baby you held
Facing a world that avoids your baby's name
Deciding if or when you could try again
How I Can Support You
Grief Support That Honours Your Baby
A space where your baby is real, named and remembered. We grieve them together — there is no pressure to 'move on' from someone you love.
Gentle Work With Birth Trauma
Many parents carry trauma from the birth itself. We work with this gently and at your pace, with grounding tools for flashbacks and anxiety.
The Practical Weight of Loss
Returning to work, answering “do you have children?”, managing anniversaries, due dates and the nursery — support for the parts of life after stillbirth nobody warns you about.
When You're Ready — What Comes Next
Whether you're considering another pregnancy or know you never will, there's space for that conversation without any agenda.
Questions You Might Have
“How can talking possibly help with something this big?”
Nothing makes stillbirth okay, and I will never pretend otherwise. But grief this heavy was never meant to be carried in silence. Having one space where you can say the unsayable — the anger, the guilt, the moments you can't share with family — changes how the weight sits. My own son was stillborn; I know from both sides of the room that it helps.
“It's been years since my baby died. Is it too late for support?”
It is never too late. Many parents seek support years after their loss — often triggered by a subsequent pregnancy, a child reaching a milestone their baby never did, or grief that simply never had space. Your baby matters as much now as they did then.
“I keep replaying the birth. Is that normal?”
Yes. Stillbirth is both a bereavement and, for many parents, a trauma. Replaying events, flashbacks, avoiding reminders and hypervigilance are common trauma responses. Therapy can help you process the traumatic elements gently, at your pace, alongside the grief.
“Can my partner and I get support together?”
My sessions are individual, but I often work with parents whose partners are also grieving, and supporting how you grieve alongside each other is a natural part of the work. I can also point you towards Australian organisations offering couples and peer support, such as Red Nose Grief and Loss.
Pregnant again after stillbirth? You may also want to read about pregnancy after loss support.
Your Baby Matters. So Do You.
I'm now welcoming clients across Australia. Join the waitlist and I'll be in touch personally to arrange your first session.
Before You Enquire
- All sessions are online via secure video, anywhere in Australia
- Sessions are also available for clients in New Zealand, the UK and Ireland
- I am unable to work with clients based in the USA or Canada due to licensing requirements
- I do not provide crisis or emergency support
- Therapy is not a substitute for medical or psychiatric care